So many men have internalized the lie that they have uncontrollable sex drives, and no way to control their anger. They aren’t ashamed of their abusive behavior because they see it as a something natural to them and maybe even central to their masculinity. It’s scary as hell.
So I made an important decision today. I’m not going to wear padded bras anymore. My flatter than flat chest is something I’ve struggled with since the 7th grade when everyone around me was either developing boobs or laughing at the fact that I was not. So I started wearing real bras instead of training bras and slowly worked my way up to triple padded aerie “bombshells” which gave off the marvellous illusion that I did in fact have at least an A cup, (I don’t think I even have enough to fill any sort of cup) and I’ve worn them ever since. I invested a ton of money in really expensive Victoria’s Secret bathing suits that gave off the same illusion so people wouldn’t question why I was flat chested in a regular triangle bathing suit. And then one of my new friends told me she never wears real bras, just these thin fabric ones from American apparel. And that’s when it hit me, I didn’t even notice that she had no boobs, because when we have conversations and sit side by side in class, her boobs are no concern of mine. They don’t matter to me and I don’t think my sexuality has anything to do with it, because I do admire beautiful women as much as men do. And my friend really is beautiful. And the fact that she was able to own the fact that she has no boobs inspired me to do the same. I started wearing push-up bras because I was scared of the comments I’d get if I didn’t, comments that I had gotten a few times before. My mom also wore push up bras so I followed her example and if she were alive today I hope she’d have enough confidence to follow me in my rejection of padded bras. For the past few years I myself have made jokes with my close friends about how flat I am, my best friends have seen me naked and so I think that I’m okay with the rest of the world knowing it too. The other thing that led me to make this choice is being in bed with a boy, if there’s anything more embarrassing than not having boobs, it’s pretending you do and then having to show someone that you don’t. It took me a long time before I ever even let a boy take off my bra and when he did I said “don’t laugh at my lack of boobs” and he replied “you’re perfect” and that’s when I realized I, am a lot. I mean, I’m a lot of things. I’ve got quite a personality and I’m really loud and obnoxious and I’m smart and I’ve been told I’m funny and all these things would still be true whether I have boobs or not. And these things are way comfier than padded bras, I feel like a weight has been lifted and I really needed to express myself on this. I hope any flatties reading this get enough courage to own their body, there’s nothing hotter than confidence. No ones gonna insult your flat chest if you own the shit out of it. I’m not in high school anymore so I’m not surrounded by a bunch of hormonal 17 year olds who think you’re broken if you don’t look like Megan fox.